Nice vid, it talks about some important things I noticed in myself. The main idea is, there is infinity of paradoxes in reality that we're always missing, and each such paradox can fix some tiny bit of our inner self if we discover it. If you're suffering from some emotion that always comes back and spoils everything, there's always some counter-intuitive notion that makes you go "oh shit, how was I so dumb for so long?! that's how it's supposed to work! hell yeah!". You may spend years not noticing it, with no one around you aware that there's even any solution, let alone knowing what to do exactly.
She says that the problem is that your inner self keeps lying to you about things. And the solution is, refusing to get carried away by it. How? For every "unbearable" thought that bounces you around, for every "realistic" thought that pulls you deeper into negativity, it's possible to put your reactions to them on pause, like in emulation, and to examine them. Facing the idea that "the gremlin" gives you, without reacting to it, is very hard. But the thing is, facing it is
meant to be hard, so you'd be afraid of seeing that problem in its entirety. If you think you can't bear experiencing some negative emotion or thought in its entirety, you'll keep being bounced and pulled around
by its tip. But if you get ready and actually pause yourself in that "unbearable" state, accepting the negative parts of reality but not reacting to them, you'll find out that fear of that state is false, and that fear is the only real problem, blocking your path forward.
It's hard to explain this in strict realistic words, so all I have is analogies (after all, feelings really depend on analogies, it's common to say "it feels like X", even if there's no X around you). So the way I learned treating my negative emotions is the same as pets. Every negative emotion is a pet inside you (or a part of you) that hasn't received due care in due time, and it just kept evolving without care, slowly mutating into something "foreign".
It's very important to know that humans
can not live without care, care is 100% essential to our nature. If you leave a babe in a forest, it will die. If you leave a child with wild animals, they will raise it as
one of them, not as a human. Even if you can then take that child and try raising it normally, you'll need to invest tons of extra care to turn them back into human; the later you take them from their savagery, the harder it gets.
So the main thesis is:
results of lack of care can be fixed by extra care. But what to do if you're the only person who knows what's happening to you, and the only person who can, in theory, care about you? Bring your own care into your own hell! Take every negative emotion that appears, and treat it like a suffering pet: hug it, accept its feelings, and keep petting it calmly until there's no more fear. Once you cure the fear, you turn your previous negative emotion into a friend: a part of you that grew foreign is now back home! Every time you do this, with any new negative emotion or thought, you'll feel more and more alive and natural. Every such step is a part of your personal growth. And personal growth is the only way to
turn previous negative experience into positive one!
